Having trouble figuring out who to invite to your wedding? Don’t worry; you’re not alone! Almost everyone who plans their wedding has insane amounts of difficulty figuring out who they should invite. Most of the time, it’s because you have limited seating; but sometimes it can simply be that you have no idea who you do and do not want there. (Or perhaps you know who you ‘DO NOT’ want there, but can’t find a way to do so without offence) This article contains a few simple guidelines that you may find useful to follow to release you of your troubles!
The obvious first choice is family! There are very few weddings where the initial families are not present; usually, because either one or the other is deceased or was not present during the life of their child. In most cases, however, the first guests that should be on your list are your respective families; both the groom’s and the bride’s family equally. After they have been added, you can follow up with any other close relatives; grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, and any other relative that you feel close to. Depending on your cultural background, it may be the norm to invite your entire family relation to your wedding, but whether you follow this is entirely up to you and your soon to be spouse. Starting to feel like you have a decent guest list yet? Don’t go anywhere; we’re far from done!
Close Friends: Yes, You can be a Little Selfish!
It is super difficult to choose which friends you will and will not invite. As you pick one from the other, you already know deep inside your brain that any friend you don’t invite is going to be hurt for life! But sometimes you can’t avoid this! In the end, the decision is yours. Oh, you’re still not sure how to make that decision? The easiest way is to look back over your life and see which of your friends were there for you when you needed them. (Your spouse to be can do the same, of course) Got that list in your head now? Great! Yes, it is still going to be hard to pick some friends over the others; but, when it comes down to it, it’s your wedding, and you want your best and closest friends by your side, don’t you?
If you still have space for more guests then now is the time to think back once more and determine who has had the most positive impact on your life. (Other than your family and friends who are already invited!) Perhaps your old primary school teacher? What about your Dad’s best friend who taught you to relax in a boat and fish? Could it be your Mum’s friend who brought you to a hair salon to get a perm when you were feeling down? You never know; it may even be that your neighbour influenced your life simply by smiling and saying “Hey” each day. The point is, no matter what category you place people under, the ones who you want at your wedding are the ones that have been there for you; that you feel close to, right?
If that’s the way you feel about it, then go ahead and make that guest list!